From Me to We

by , | Nov 20, 2020 | Blog, Science

It’s more fun to play when we’re on the same team

Positive, safe social connections develop through shared synchronicity that comes from facial expressions, eye contact, attunement, activating mirror neurons, and moving rhythmically with others. When synchrony is surreptitiously produced in experimental situations it breeds feelings of ‘liking’ another person and one’s self, cooperation, and compassion, as well as success in collaborative action. Studies show that more synchronized movement was associated with better relationship quality and better interactional outcomes.

The quality of a relationship is thus embodied by the synchronized movement patterns emerging between partners. (Ramseyer, 2013) Furthermore, synchronized gestures also reflect and trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone
essential for bonding and secure, safe attachments. (Uvnas-Moberg, 2003)

V.S. Ramachandran is Director of the Center for Brain and Cognition and Distinguished Professor with the Psychology Department and Neurosciences Program at the University of California, San Diego, and Adjunct Professor of Biology at the Salk Institute. In his book, “The Tell-Tale Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Quest for What Makes Us Human,” he writes, “One final option for reviving dormant mirror neurons in autism might be to take advantage of the great delight that all humans take in dancing to a rhythm. Although such dance therapy using rhythmic music has been tried with autistic children, no attempt
has been made to directly tap into the known properties of the mirror-neuron system. One way to do this might be, for example, to have several model dancers moving simultaneously to rhythm and having the child mime the same dance in synchrony.”

Ramachandran might be describing CalmConnect™: A compelling sensorimotor program, providing
audiovisual synchrony in a delightful and engaging format.


  • Roberta Scherf is a producer, writer, and speaker. Her own experience with Post-traumatic stress disorder and as the mother of a child with autism fueled her drive to understand the nervous system. Roberta’s curiosity, passion and commitment led to the design of an innovative non-pharmaceutical system that helps people to manage their own nervous system and behavior. She is the inventor of CalmConnect, the first patented behavioral health program to integrate music, patterns, the expressive features of emotion, and movement as part of a self-regulation program currently being used in thousands of school districts in the US and Canada, as well as therapy centers, hospitals, clinics, and homes around the world. She attended Carleton College and the University of Minnesota, studied Speech and Hearing Science, Psychology, and Russian, and spent years working with non-profit organizations. Roberta is the Co-Founder of PrioHealth LLC, and contributor to the book, “Optimizing Learning Outcomes: Proven Brain-Centric, Trauma-Sensitive Practices,” edited by Dr. William Steele, (Routledge, 2017).

  • As the co-creator of CalmConnect and co-founder of PrioHealth LLC, Chris Bye has spent more than ten years developing programs to regulate the nervous system. He completed his undergraduate work at Gustavus Adolphus College and his graduate work at UW-Madison and has a background in music and human development. He has taught numerous classes at UW-Madison, UW-River Falls, and the University of St.Thomas, including Entrepreneurship and Business Ethics. As a featured speaker, he has presented at numerous conferences and seminars on topics ranging from integrating movement and music into the classroom, reducing anxiety and depression in people of all ages, and using tools to help those struggling with a variety of challenges. One of the founders of the Fly Fishing Film Festival in River Falls, Wisconsin, Chris serves on the Executive Committee of the Board of Directors for the Kinni River Land Trust, and as an Officer with the MN Grouse Dog Association.